What a Girl wants!

So I tend to stay away from giving other's advice.  I do see that men in general can be a little ummm...what's a nice word, unthoughtful sometimes.  Now this is not saying they do not try.  I had a light-bulb moment and honestly decided to write (type) out my thoughts on this subject. I know there are probably a hundred books out there saying this exact thing but maybe if I can get through to one person or have one person have a light bulb moment then that's all that matters.  Maybe even to make one feel as if they are not alone. 

What a girl wants is simple.  Men seen to think that woman are these complicated creatures that they cannot figure out.  Although this is not true, our complex emotions sometimes can get the better of us, so, here I am letting you know what we want. 

FIRST:

Woman need to be wanted and needed.  They want to feel wanted and needed.  These two things are totally different.  Don't know the difference?  Its easy.  Woman want you to rely on them and need them to do things but they also want you acknowledge this fact and want you to know that they want you to feel the same way about them as they do of you. 

SECOND:

Woman want to be told they are beautiful, sexy, pretty, gorgeous etc, etc.  They want you to say it without prompting. They want you to mean it when you say it.  They want that person to look at them and say "You are so beautiful". And even if that woman doesn't take compliments well or blushes and or doesn't have much to say in return... keep telling her.  In different ways.  If you like that outfit or her hair or her smile.... acknowledge that. 

THIRDLY:

Woman want to spend time with you.  They need to spend time with you. They want you to want and need to spend time with them.  And no this does not include sitting at home while you play a video game and she watches you play.  Go out to dinner, a movie, bowling....something, anything.... With children, without children, both. Do something she likes even if  you don't. Because she would do the same for you and usually does. The road goes both ways. Don't be afraid to try new things, together. 

FOURTH:

Be romantic.  Even if you don't know how.  TRY! A flower after a long day. A back rub just because. Look into her eyes and caress her face or hair or body. Touch her. Dote on her without expecting anything back. Go back to number 2. 

FIFTH:

Do something without being asked or prompted to. A huge turn on to any woman  I know is a man that cooks her dinner just because or cleans the house for her just because.... I think men forget that even though some of us may stay home our jobs never end especially with Children. We need a break too and just the thought that they thought enough about us to do something for us and WANT to do it for us means the world.

SIXTH:

Respect and loyalty are the two biggest things. Respect what she says, her opinions, her thoughts, her dreams, her ambitions, her body, her dislikes, her likes, and the list goes on. Also have respect for what she says. Woman don't tell you they...ummm...as an example, they dislike something for no reason.  If they are telling you they dislike "x" then don't do "x" anymore.  If its bothering her enough to tell you its bothering her I suggest you listen and not just pretend to listen either.  Put yourself in the woman's shoes.  All men should use the "How would I feel if the situation were reversed...?" bylaw.  Loyalty is pretty much one of those things that shouldn't be a question. True devotion comes with respect hand in hand.

SEVENTH:

Let her know she is the only one.  Talk to her.  Tell her your feelings. Tell her what you like her doing. If you like when she wears "x" or cooks "x" or does "x"....TELL HER! Even if they are sappy, tell her. Tell her how much she means to you on a regular basis.  Tell her she is special and that you love her.  The little things matter most.

EIGHTH:

Be real. Do not and I repeat DO NOT hide things, lie about things or do things you would not do right in front of her.  Men do not realize that woman have a 6th sense and they will normally find out on way or another.  If you hide "x" then that means there is a reason to be hiding "x" and in this example "x" can be ANYTHING big or little but then that "x" turns into "xxx" and yea, guys, then your screwed. Should of just outed it at "x". No reason to hide anything. Relationships should be an open book. Woman want you to be their confidant and them to be yours. They want you to tell them secrets even if they are stupid and have nothing to do with YOU per say. 

NINTH:

To woman Holidays ARE a big deal.  They may not tell you and they may act like they don't care but...we do. Mother's day, Birthday, Christmas....We expect you to make a big deal of it even if we act like we don't want you to. Don't ask us what we want.  9 times out of 10 we aren't going to tell you and honestly if you really listened to us like you should you wouldn't have to ask because we always drop hints through the year about what we would like to have or want.  Woman like surprises.  We don't want to know what you are going to get us.  We want you to use your own head and own heart to pick something out. 

TENTH:

Sex is a huge part of any relationship.  The difference is that if you add in all the above sex can be the last thing on the list.  We do not want the "wham bam thank you ma'am". Sex means something to woman.  Its emotional and physical. The more emotional you are the more physical happens.  The more do the above the more you get.  Sorry, guys that's just the way it works. Sex is just the icing to the cupcake!